This post is from TO-WEN TSENG 曾多聞
Journalist/Author/Mother We link a related post here on this topic of breastfeeding moms here.
Below is her letter to the Asian American Journalists Association:
Spending my entire career life with ethnic media, I often feel that among those news organizations that misrepresent Asian Americans, ethnic media are the worst. It’s ironic, but it’s true. For example, just a while ago World Journal, one of the largest Chinese-language newspaper in North America, published an article titled “Breastfeeding photos embarrass Chinese-American to death,” claiming that most Chinese American consider that breastfeeding in public is “disturbing” and “disgusting.” Articles like this not only mis represent Asian Americans, but also deliver wrong idea to the community.
Moms think breastfeeding is a great thing, but the photos only make others feel uncomfortable
By Shuxian Lou, Staff Writer
It’s been a trend for young, hot mamas to show off their breastfeeding photos. Recently American mama Amy Woodruff showed off her breastfeeding photos online, and the whole world is talking about it. Many Chinese-Americans complain that seeing breastfeeding photos on social media is really “embarrassing to death.”
Chinese-American “Peter” was browsing Facebook when a female colleague came to his desk to talk to him. Peter just clicked on a Facebook page; he turned around to talk to the colleague while the page was loading. Soon he noticed that his colleague was staring at his computer screen with a weird look on her face. He turned around and saw there was a breastfeeding photo on the screen. The photo showed a huge boob with blue veins on it and was so “R-rated” that Peter was left speechless. “I was embarrassed to death,” said Peter. He recognized that photo was from another female colleague who he bumped into everyday, “that’s really embarrassing,” he said, “I wish I could tell her to save her breastfeeding photos for herself.”
“Huo,” an international student from China also complained that she has seen breastfeeding photos on social media more that once, “I just want to go blind.” She said that she once saw a series of breastfeeding photos showing some nipples on Weibo, the Chinese version Twitter. “Those moms think breastfeeding is a great thing, but the photos only make others feel uncomfortable.”
Chinese-American “Teresa” from Hawaii was browsing Facebook and saw some breastfeeding photos shown off by a girlfriend. Her 4-year-old son was by her side and saw those photos with her. Teresa felt very uncomfortable about her son seeing breastfeeding photos. She said that she thought breastfeeding is a good but personal thing, and those who showing breastfeeding photos online are just unthoughtful. Especially those breastfeeding photos were not beautiful but only disgusting. “Who do they think they are? Virgin Mary and baby Jesus?” She said. “I just don’t get it. Those photos are meaningless.”
Not only new moms seemed to addict to showing off their breastfeeding photos, some new dads even love to show the photos of their babies being breastfed more than the moms do. A Chinese-American graduate student complained that a friend from college was showing off photos of his child being breastfed on Weibo every several days, and the child not only being breastfed at home, but also in public space like shopping malls or parks. “Is he sick or what? How can he show off his wife breastfeeding like this?” The graduate student was so disturbed that he finally blocked the friend.